Loneliness

Let’s talk about loneliness. Have you been there? I have, especially last year, and it really took a toll on me mentally. When we look back to the mindset model, there’s something interesting to be found:

Feelings of loneliness and isolation can be a beat down, but it’s important to recognize that they are FEELINGS — valid in their own right, but also a reflection of what’s going on beneath the surface in our hearts and minds.

When I’m feeling lonely, I’m usually thinking (sometimes even subconsciously) things like this:
~ Nobody wants to be my friend.
~ I don’t have anyone to talk to.
~ I don’t fit in.
~ No one cares.
...You get the idea. It’s a downward spiral. Maybe you can relate.

So what do we do? We take those thoughts captive and flip the script.

A friend recently shared the exact perspective shift I needed to combat those feelings of loneliness and not belonging —

Sometimes we view isolation as a punishment, but what if it could actually be a gift, for preparation? What if those moments of quiet questions and longing are where God does His best work? The spaces that would otherwise be filled with busyness and distractions – even good things – finally left open for Him to fill.

When I think about it that way, my perspective shifts to gratitude, to a broader view of the story that’s unfolding, and invites me to hope again.

Am I saying that the ache of loneliness will go away if you think about the big picture? No, and I understand that everyone’s circumstance is different. But I do think that when we’re able to view our pain through the lens of trust, believing that God’s intentions are good, it brings back a sense of peace and purpose to the process.

If you are feeling lonely today, know that I am saying a prayer for you right now and sending a big ole virtual hug your way. Feel free to reach out anytime if you need a friend, or just a listening ear. I’m believing good things are coming your way, friend. Dare to see it for yourself.

xoxo, Han